| Fran Beban |
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Hello Again, Friends and Family. It is inconceivable to me that there can be a world without Fran in it. I guess we will all have to find out what that is like. I have lost not just my mother but one of the dearest friends I have ever had -- she was also the only friend I've had and stayed close with for my whole life. My life is completely different today than it was yesterday. Words can't even begin to express how much I will miss her. Today I am thankful for more things than I can list. Here are but a few: that she never was in pain since she stopped the chemo treatments; that I was able to be by her side when she passed on; that Ernie loved her so much and with such generosity and patience; all your love and prayers and emails; all the wonderful things I learned from her; her distinctive laugh; that so many of you have helped me see the beauty and the grace in this grief; that there are hospice workers and night nurses in this world; chocolate; my wife and kids. I try to focus on this gratitude as a way to balance the waves of grief that feel like they're going to drown me. It's a tightrope walk.We are planning to have a memorial service on Saturday, January 9th somewhere in the Berkeley/Kensington area; the time and exact location are still TBD. I'll send out a message when all that is locked down. I welcome stories, dreams and reflections you may have of her; I'll create an email alias ASAP and add you all to it, so you can send messages to this list without having everyone's email address listed in the "To" field. Then you can share those messages with each other and the other people who knew and loved Fran. I'll write again when the alias is in place (I need to do it once I'm back at my home). Until then, thank you one more time for your support of my mom and her/our family. No matter how hard it gets, I know you're all out there. I look forward to seeing many of you again when we gather to honor her life. With Love, Bob |
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